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Technology has always found its greatest consumer in a nation's war and defense efforts. Since the last attempts at a "Star Wars" defense system, has technology changed considerably enough to make the latest Missile Defense initiatives more successful? Can such an application of science be successful? Is a militarized space inevitable, necessary or impossible?

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rshow55 - 01:39pm Jan 15, 2003 EST (# 7667 of 7679)
Can we do a better job of finding truth? YES. Click "rshow55" for some things Lchic and I have done and worked for on this thread.

I was also certain that - whether we could make a romantic connection stick or not - we could do superb mathematics together.

rshow55 - 01:51pm Jan 15, 2003 EST (# 7668 of 7679)
Can we do a better job of finding truth? YES. Click "rshow55" for some things Lchic and I have done and worked for on this thread.

We were both virgins - and neither of us the least bit naive about some key things that mattered - in my case, it was an issue I'd be conscious of, and interested in, since the age of about 6 - and she was plainly well briefed - I couldn't guess how. We both cared intensely about sex. We had negotiated our marriage discussions to the following "impasse" - after tens of hours (in some ways, hundreds) of face to face discussions about detailed issues of child raising - relative handling - and much else.

Her position was that sex should only occur after marriage. I felt strongly that, for us, the engagement period had to be a period of sexual adjustment - because too much was at stake for it to be handled otherwise. And I wanted her.

In a sense, I'd asked her to marry me maybe ten times - and she'd smiled and said "maybe" as many times. But when the issue of formal proposal came up - she was clear. I'd have to be able to "hang a rock on her" -- and a big enough one to impress her parents and other significant others - and before that, engagement was out of the question. I though her specifications were clear - and don't think I was mistaken.

I had a task before me - and set out to do it using the tools I had for the job, as I was, where I was. I would set up a fight, for enough money - and get the ring. That part was easy enough in principle - but there were problems with details.

And I had to worry about other key disagreements - because the impasse was a major one - for both of it - and I didn't know how to retreat from the situation in which she and I were cycling - inflicting a lot of stress and pain on each other.

rshow55 - 01:54pm Jan 15, 2003 EST (# 7669 of 7679)
Can we do a better job of finding truth? YES. Click "rshow55" for some things Lchic and I have done and worked for on this thread.

While this was going on, neither of us were as sensitive as we might have been to other people's reactions - though we tried to be.

rshow55 - 01:56pm Jan 15, 2003 EST (# 7670 of 7679)
Can we do a better job of finding truth? YES. Click "rshow55" for some things Lchic and I have done and worked for on this thread.

A big problem - about which I was totally insenstive - is that people at the Res Club sensed something that I hadn't intended - something that never occurred to me at all.

They thought that I was threatening them, and intentionally making them uneasy - when all I was doing was meticulously setting out to make some money in an honest and above board way.

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